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Why are we Kicking the Bucket again? Because we still see a huge need for healthy open creative conversations about death and dying. Because there are so many aspects to explore. There is definitely a gradual shift in our attitudes towards death but it is still hard to access useful, honest and inspiring material on the subject unless you know where to look. To have the opportunity of sharing the experience with strangers, friends and family members is still very rare. Explore new ideas, make plans, share your concerns and get creative. In a host of different venues in Oxford and Oxfordshire over a span of four weeks we offer you a smorgasbord of original, enjoyable and challenging experiences. Over 40 events and nearly 100 participants. If you are coming from afar the real concentration of activity is in the last week of October building up to the hub weekend of 30 October - 2 November.

 

The Team

 

Festival Director - Liz Rothschild is a celebrant and manages a green burial ground outside Oxford. She created the first festival in Oxford. Eight heads are definitely better than one and so this year she has been joined by a hardworking team brimming with fresh ideas.

Sue Brayne - Therapist and writer, advisor to Dying Matters.

Kim Finlayson - Celebrant

Joan Gardner - Age UK Oxon/Oxbel

Kath Lucas - Choir leader, singer and composer.

Hazel May - Occupational Therapist; Dementia Care specialist. Masters in Philosophy and Healthcare.

Sarah Thacker-Pugsley - Administrator

Tess Ward - Chaplain at Katherine’s House and writer

We also thank all those who agreed to create or host events for the festival including Dennis Harrison for his inspired suggestion for our New Orleans Jazz Band launch event.

 

What’s New?

 

There are new subjects and themes such as dementia, organ and body donation, death of pets, home funerals, bereaved parents, creative therapeutic approaches to grief and a range of new exhibitions. This includes one we have funded with Crisis Skylight at the Old Fire Station - "Stop, Look, See" which continues our commitment to working with marginalised communities, in this case people who have experience of homelessness. We are very proud to host the international premiere of the puppet show "Death in a Nut" which we commissioned aiming to create a valuable resource for small children on the subject of death and dying. We are also delighted to be offering a series of dance and poetry workshops actively exploring end of life wishes for people living with dementia and their carers. They are led by John Killick, Hazel May and Jeannie McDonald working with existing groups which will resource local dementia care practitioners to develop further workshop opportunities. We also have a number of contributors from North America. A rare opportunity to hear them share their unique knowledge and experience.

 

What’s the Same?

 

At all of our events you will find a wide range of free information for you about local and national organisations working in the field. This Festival is a not for profit festival run on a shoestring budget and we are hugely grateful to the generosity of our contributors and our tireless team of volunteers without whom this simply could not happen. This year we are joined by members of Finity in Bucks, (www.finity.org.uk) and Cruse Oxfordshire (www.oxfordcruse.co.uk).

 

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Living it up at the festival of death.

WARNING! - Major roadworks around Oxford may delay your journey.

What music/song do you want at your funeral? We will be displaying a playlist.

31st Oct – Dementia a key topic so many of us want and need to know more about.

1st Nov - Funeral Poverty - Why is it increasing? What can we do about it?
Say Their Name – award winning film by and for bereaved parents and anyone looking for a healthier way to grieve http://beyondgoodbye.co.uk/.
At the Bedside – Practical advice and wisdom about how to cope.
I can’t Die yet I’m not ready - Funny, informative workshop to help you get your affairs in order.
..and then let’s celebrate being alive and honour those who have died at our Day of the Dead Ceilidh with Kismet.

Cancelled – 30th Oct Sonic Midwifery - has been cancelled as sadly Maryliz can no longer come to Europe,
Cancelled – 31st Oct - Shadow into Light workshop

 

Death Cafes organised by Oxbel - www.oxbel.org.uk

 

Good company, cake and a chat about death. What could be better? Led by experienced local facilitators. A chance to reflect and share your thoughts in relaxed and informal settings. Never morbid, often light hearted! Not recommended for the recently bereaved.

For more about the Death Cafe movement visit www.deathcafe.com

Thame: Wed SEPT 10th, 5.30-7.30pm,Thame Barns Centre, Church Road, Thame, Oxfordshire, OX9 3AJ Disabled

Oxford: Wed SEPT 17th, 5.00–7.00pm The Jam Factory, Hollybush Row, Oxford, OX1 1HU Disabled

Oxford: Fri OCT 31st - 4.30-6.30 pm Cafe Rouge, 11 Little Clarendon St, Oxford OX1 2HP (FREE) Disabled

Faringdon: Sun OCT 5th 2.00–4.00pm, The Rookery Cafe, Faringdon – Call 01367 240508 or email info@woodlandburialwestmill.co.uk (FREE) Disabled No disabled toilet.

Chipping Norton: Wed NOV 19th 7.00–9.00pm, The Guildhall, Lower Room, Chipping Norton, OX7 5NJ Disabled

Suggested entry donation of £3.50 to cover the cost of hiring some venues. You will still need to purchase refreshments.

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27th Sept 5.30pm - 6.30pm | Westmill Memorial Gathering |
Westmill Woodland Burial Ground, nr Watchfield, Oxfordshire. |

A chance to remember someone who has died in the peaceful surroundings of this green burial ground 18 miles outside Oxford. Music, songs, readings, silence. Arrive earlier for a chance to make a memorial lantern or leaf. Refreshments provided. See www.woodlandburialwestmill.co.uk for full details of event and location.

Booking - 01367 240508 | No limit on numbers but we need to know for catering and lanterns etc.
No charge - Donations welcomed to the Geoffrey Clark Palliative Care Trust |www.gcpct.org.uk
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13th Oct - 2nd Nov | Kicking the Bucket Trail – A Guided Trail around the Ashmolean Museum |
Ashmolean Museum, Beaumont Street OX1 2PH |

Dr Lauren Gale has developed a free trail for us that explores practises, beliefs and choices around death and life, as reflected in objects in the collections at the Ashmolean.

FREE Available from the welcome desk in Gallery 9

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16th Oct 6.30pm - 7.30pm | Journey into Light | Meditation Workshop
Inner Space, 21 Broad Street, OX1 3AS

A reflective exploration of death through near-death experiences.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Inner-Space-Oxford/310025862420185

FREE - Booking | www.innerspace.org/oxford or 01865 244321 |

 

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20th Oct - 16th Nov | Stop, look and see. | Two photography exhibitions. |
Crisis Skylight Cafe & The Old Fire Station, 40 George Street OX1 2AQ |

What is living and dying? What does it look and feel like? Exploring nature, the seasons and our senses through image, Ruth Davey (www.look-again.org) a photographer with a personal interest in the theme, ran a three day workshop at Crisis Skylight with people who have experience of homelessness. They drew their inspiration from personal thought, vision and from the streets of Oxford, the Botanical Gardens and the Ashmolean. This exhibition showcases the participants work. Ruth also presents an exhibition of her own photographs taken at friends' funerals, which she hopes may inspire people to see funerals in a different way. A jointly funded and supported project by the Crisis Skylight Project and the Kicking the Bucket Festival.

www.facebook.com/lookagainphotography

www.twitter.com/LookAgainPhotos

FREE - Call 01865 263980 for full details of opening times | Disabled

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My father died when I was 25. He was working in India at the time and the car he was travelling in had a head on collision with a tree. I got a knock at door of my London flat at 12.30 that night - I knew it was my dad...I found it incredibly hard to talk about his death to anyone. No-one seemed to know how to relate to me about it. I didn’t want to talk to my family about it. Over the years I have learned to deal with it and gradually found ways to communicate more openly about the subject of death and dying. Over the past few years, I have been privileged to photograph three of my friends’ funerals. For all three families, it was important to celebrate their loved ones lives in an appropriate, respectful, and supportive way. I hope that my photographs can help to open up conversation about death and dying and that they may inspire people to see funerals in a different way. Alongside my own personal work I am passionate about working with communities encouraging them to gain skills in looking and recording what they see through photography to express how they see the world and each other.

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21st - 30th Oct | Day of the Dead Altar & Tree of Life |
The Story Museum, Rochester House, 42 Pembroke St, Oxford OX1 1BP |

Created for the festival in 2012 by Groovy Su, Liz Rothschild, Cathy Turbinskyj and Sam Wickham and inspired by the Mexican Dios de los Muertos these alluring objects invite you to come and add your own responses. The glowing red Altar creates a quiet place for reflection and you are welcome to bring any copies of photographs or words to add to what is already there. A chance to stop for a moment, sit down and remember. Brimming with colour and energy, the Tree of Life, decorated by children from Helen and Douglas House, members of Restore, the Steppin’ Stone project and patients at Sobell House reminds us what makes life worth living.

FREE | Visit www.storymuseum.org.uk for opening times | Disabled

Helen and Douglas House Restore Sobell

 

 

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22nd Oct - 13 Nov | Routes of sorrow and grieving. |
St Barnabas Church, Jericho Oxford OX2 6BN |

To gain entry phone Paul on 01865 513601

A multi-media exhibition. Artist Pam Foley (www.pamfoley.co.uk) brings back her warmly received show exploring loss and grief through curiosity and conversation.

www.facebook.com/pamfoleysculptor

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22nd Oct - 13th Nov | Festival Feasting at the Nosebag. |
6-8 St Michaels Street, Oxford OX1 2DU |

Open 7 days a week from 9.30

Festival goers can get a 20% discount on all food when they show one of our programmes. Once again they will be raising money for charity from the sale of one of their mouthwatering cakes.

Funds go to Young Dementia UK this year. www.youngdementiauk.org

No booking – 01865 721033 | www.nosebagoxford.co.uk

 

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22nd Oct 6.30pm - 6.45 pm | The Horns of Plenty New Orleans Jazz Band |
St. Giles Church, 10 Woodstock Road, OX2 6HA

Help kick us off to a joyous start to with the splendiferous Horns of Plenty as they frolic amid the gravestones of this charming little graveyard right in the heart of Oxford. Wear gladrags. Wear sadrags. Come as you are. The perfect end to the day’s work or start of your evening out. Follow them where they lead.

FREE - No booking needed.

 

 

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22nd Oct - 7.45pm | The Seven Ages of Jazz |
The Albion Beatnik Bookshop, Walton Street, Jericho OX2 6AA

A musical and poetic exploration of the life and death of jazz, from its birth to the grave, with saxophonist Alan Barnes (www.alanbarnesjazz.com/index.html) and pianist Dave Newton (www.davidnewton.biz/), poetic intermissions from, and collaborations with Michael Horovitz (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Horovitz)

Local street band The Horns Of Plenty will march in to the shop as though Oxford were the red light district of New Orleans and the evening will take off exploring the life journey of jazz from its seedy and syncopated beginnings through various reincarnations - swing, bebop, free jazz and fusion. Is jazz really dead? To help answer this, the celebrated beat poet, Michael Horovitz provides dramatic poetic interludes.

£10 entry; refreshment available.
Booking - 07737 876213 | albionbeatnik@yahoo.co.uk

 

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ALAN BARNES is probably the most popular performer on the jazz club circuit, known for his verbal wit as well as his post-bop hard swinging style;

DAVE NEWTON is a true two-handed piano virtuoso and one of this country's best accompanists;

MICHAEL HOROVITZ, the celebrated British beat poet, friend of Ginsberg and Burroughs, has been a mainstay of the British poetry scene since the early 1960s.

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23rd Oct, 7.00pm - 8.30pm| Blackwell’s Author Event | Kate Mayfield - 'The Undertaker's Daughter' |
Blackwell’s Bookshop, 50 Broad Street OX1 3BQ |

As part of the 'Kicking the Bucket' festival 2014, Blackwell's will be welcoming author Kate Mayfield (www.katemayfield.com) into the store to talk about her memoir, 'The Undertaker's Daughter'. Kate grew up in 1960's Kentucky in a funeral home. A place synonymous with death and where the victims of family feuds, accidents and suicide lay in preparation for burial. This fascinating story of life in the god-fearing south shows how sharing a house with the dead can prepare a person to face life with the living. Described as a mixture between Six Feet Under and Mary Roach's Stiff, this incredible story mixes in macabre humour to describe a very different childhood that many people would struggle to imagine.

Booking - £3 | 01865 333623 | Disabled

 

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After Kate was born she was taken directly to a funeral home. Her father, an undertaker, set up shop in a small town in southern Kentucky where the family resided in his funeral home for thirteen years. This is the setting of her third book, a memoir, THE UNDERTAKER'S DAUGHTER to be published in 2014 by Simon & Schuster.She is the co-author of TEN STEPS TO FASHION FREEDOM and ELLIE HART GOES TO WORK. Kate attended Western Kentucky University before moving to Manhattan where she graduated from the American Academy of Dramatic Arts. After living in New York and Los Angeles, she now makes London her home.

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24th Oct - 7.30pm - 9.30pm | Bringing Our Dead Home | Gently Changing Death Care, One Family at a Time | Introductory talk & film presentation - Eynsham, Oxford |

When a loved one dies it is legal and possible to gently care for them at home and to create a beautiful, personal and affordable home funeral. Join us as we outline the facts, share our personal and professional experiences of family led after death care and show a short, inspirational film. (This can be taken as a standalone or together with the full day workshop).

Facilitators: Jerrigrace Lyons www.finalpassages.org and Claire Turnham www.onlywithlove.co.uk

Booking - £10/8|claire@onlywithlove.co.uk or 01865 362984/07881641583|
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Jerrigrace is the founder of Final Passages, a non-profit educational institute and resource centre dedicated to home funerals and natural burial. She lives in California and travels worldwide to offering training in death midwifery, conscious dying and greener funerals. With over 20 years experience Jerrigrace has a wealth of practical knowledge, skills and experiences to share.

Claire is the Oxford based founder of Only With Love, empowering and enabling families to reclaim the lost art of caring for their own after death. Having personally cared for her own loved ones Claire now offers families her gentle guidance in deathcare services and home funerals in the UK. Claire is also an Independent Celebrant, regular death cafe facilitator and OxBEL volunteer.

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25th Oct - 10.00am - 4.00pm | Family after-death care and home funeral workshop | Eynsham.

Join us in our hands on, in depth workshop designed to give you the skills, experience and knowledge necessary to tenderly care for your own loved one at home after they die. We will help you discover the many benefits of this time-honoured, natural and family-led approach.

Facilitators as above. For more information visit www.onlywithlove.co.uk

Includes hot drinks and homemade cakes (bring vegetarian lunch to share). Places limited.
Booking as above. claire@onlywithlove.co.uk or 01865362984/07881641583 |

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25th Oct - 10.30am - 4.30pm | Draw on your own treasure |
Contemplative art workshop, St.Albans Church Hall, Oxford |

This workshop is led by Oxford based artist Wren Hughes. Through silent reflection and the optional use of art materials, this workshop offers an opportunity to take some time for yourself in a still, focussed and creative environment. In the morning we will be working with poetry, thoughts, memories and images which have deeply touched our lives, leading into the afternoon in which you will be shown how to make a simple and exquisite miniature book to gather your reflections. A celebration of life in the palm of your hand.

Booking - £45/£30 | 01865 459 924 |info@wrenhughes.co.uk| Disabled
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Wren is a sculptor, creative arts therapist and group facilitator who was inspired by, and worked with, Elizabeth Kübler-Ross in the 1980s and went on to become a bereavement counsellor. Wren regularly facilitates contemplative art groups in and around Oxford. Her commitment to learning and sharing through the creative arts comes from a lifelong practice and confidence in their capacity for personal transformation.

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27th Oct - 7.00pm - 9.00pm | Joined up Singing | Weekly community choir open to all |
St Anthony’s Church Hall, 115 Headley Way, Headington OX3 7SS |

This special session will offer an opportunity to connect with others through song to celebrate life and remember those who have died. Simple harmonies taught by ear, all welcome whether experienced singers or not. Feel free to bring items of celebration or remembrance for a simple altar.

No booking required - £8/5 | For more information 01865 762200 | Disabled

 

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28th Oct - 8.00pm | An Instinct for Kindness | Q & A with Chris hosted by Liz Rothschild |
The North Wall Arts Centre, South Parade, Summertown, Oxford OX2 7JN |

In November 2010, Chris Larner (www.chrislarner.com) accompanied his chronically ill ex-wife to Dignitas in Switzerland. He returned home with an empty wheelchair and a story to tell. This extraordinary solo performance has been acclaimed by press and public alike. With the contentious issue of assisted suicide currently being debated in parliament, this is an urgently relevant piece of theatre. The production premiered at the Edinburgh Fringe 2011, where it won the Scotsman Fringe First award before transferring to the West End for an acclaimed season. ‘Fantastic. A show that reminds us that how we die is as important as how we live.’ **** The Guardian. Performance will be followed by Q & A with Chris. www.aifk.co.uk.

£13/11 - 01865 319450 - www.thenorthwall.com | Disabled

 

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Chris trained at RADA. His first professional job was with the school’s company Theatre Centre, where he worked for three years and where he met Allyson Lee, whose story is told in An Instinct for Kindness.

Theatre work includes seasons at Bolton, Lancaster, Manchester, Derby, London Bubble, Birmingham, Bristol and Chichester, and pantomimes at London Bubble, Lewisham, and Oxford (including the dame in the current run of Peter Duncan’s Mother Goose at Oxford Playhouse) the Mad Hatter in Alice (RSC); and Wind In The Willows (National Theatre).

On TV he is best known for playing the idiot Clingfilm in London’s Burning.

He wrote music and songs for eight shows for The Right Size: for Lee Hall’s adaptations of Brecht’s Mr. Puntila and his Man Matti, (Almeida, West End National tour); for The Barber of Seville (Bristol Old Vic); and for Penny Deadful’s recent Etherdome.

He starred in and co-wrote (with David Gilbert) The Laxian Key for BBC Radio; wrote and performed in two musicals with the composer Mark Stevens – the award-winning The Translucent Frogs of Quuup (Edinburgh 2004) and the award nominated On the Island of Aars (Edinburg 200?).

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29th Oct - 10.00am - 3.00pm | Alec Peever, stone carver and letterer | Open Studio |
Hunts Copse, Wilcote Riding, Wilcote, Nr Finstock, Oxon, OX7 3DX |

It is always fascinating to see a skilled craftsman at work. Nestled in the Oxfordshire countryside come and see Alec at work. www.alecpeever.com. He might be carving a gravestone...he might not.

FREE - No booking required. | Disabled
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29th Oct - 7.30pm - 9.30pm | Why Do we need ritual in our lives? |
Friends Meeting House, St Giles OX1 3LW|

A café style gathering organised by Tess Ward (www.Tessward.wordpress.com) and Kim Finlayson (www.funeralcelebrantoxon.com) looking at whether ritual is helpful in death and dying with in-put from a panel of different voices - Pauline Hyde-Coomber, Dr Sheikh Ramzy, Chandra Vadivale, Bob Whorton and others - sharing our stories and considering our hopes for ourselves and our loved ones.

Booking - £6/4 | 01865 305305 - www.ticketsoxford.com | Disabled
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With a background in nursing and social work, I took a sabbatical in 2012 during which time I re-trained. I now work independently as a civil funeral celebrant in Oxfordshire. As such, I work closely and creatively with local funeral directors to help families choose the kind of farewell ceremony that is most fitting for the person who has died. The ceremonies are not linked to my own spiritual persuasion, though I am able to draw on several decades of colourful life experience and make use of the valuable skills I developed in the course of my previous work.

I am a hospice chaplain at Katharine House hospice nr Banbury. I am also a writer of prayers and ceremonies, and a celebrant in the Christian and Earth traditions. I am nourished by keeping the Christian calendar and the Celtic festivals and have written “The Celtic Wheel of the Year” and “Alternative Pastoral Prayers” both of which explore the flow between the earth and the contemplative traditions. Much of my work is with folks who inhabit no particular tradition and helping them to find their own words and framework to describe what is happening to them spiritually. The Celtic Wheel of the Year – O Books 2007 Alternative Pastoral Prayers – Blessings and Liturgies for health and healing, beginnings and endings – Canterbury SCM 2012

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30th Oct - 10.30am - 12.00 noon| Death in a Nut & Vasilisa the Wise | Puppets |
The Ark T Centre, Crowell Road, Cowley, Oxford, 0X4 3LN - See below for more details. |

Suitable for children aged 6 up. All children must bring an adult with them.

Booking - Suggested donation of £7 & £3 | 01865 396778 or groovysu@virginmedia.com | Disabled

 

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30th Oct 2.00pm - 4.00pm | Day of the Dead Art Workshop |
The Ark T Centre, Crowell Road, Cowley, Oxford, 0X4 3LN |

Come and see the fantastic things the Mexicans do to celebrate Dios de los Muertos. Groovy Su will show you how to make a shoebox shrine or a sugar skull or something completely different. Fun making workshop using recycled materials. Come and get creative. Suitable for ages 6 up.

FREE - No booking necessary - for more info 01865 396778 or groovysu@virginmedia.com| Disabled

 

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My interest in rubbish began as a child of the ‘70s. I remember the bin strike and the shock of witnessing mountains of bin bags lying in the streets. .. My personal mission is to raise awareness of our planet’s finite resources, encourage recycling and environmental creativity, as well as promoting events and spectacles that bring our diverse community together. After completing my B.Ed. Primary Years Training in Sheffield, I moved to Oxford. I realised I loved working with children but that I wanted to be more creative, and so I followed a Foundation Course in Art & Design in Banbury. Around this time I did a lot of voluntary work supporting fund raising events for charities and groups, running art activities and decorating stages and spaces. I realised that I could combine my teaching skills, creativity and my personal mission and become a Community Artist. In 2000 I became a self-employed Environmental Community Artist. I have been fortunate to work with a variety of diverse groups in lots of different settings throughout Oxford and Oxfordshire.There is an unspoken therapy that occurs in a group of people sharing a creative space. I believe that using reclaimed waste frees the artist in us all to make mistakes and be truly creative as well as making economic and environmental sense.

In 2010 I joined the Ark-T Centre where I have studio space along with fellow Community Artist Emily Cooling. Together we have formed Cool-n-Groovy Community Arts, with the aim of supporting each other and collaborating writing our own funding proposals.

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30th Oct 3.15pm – 4.45pm | Death in a Nut & Vasilisa the Wise | Puppets |
Barefoot Books, 294 Banbury Road, Summertown, Oxford, OX2 7ED |

Always original, fresh and playful, Play of Light Theatre ( www.playoflighttheatre.co.uk) present a new piece commissioned for the Festival alongside an existing work. A shadow puppeteer and cellist welcome you into a rich visual world of surprising images and transformations. Death in a Nut explores the strange things that happen when we get rid of death and the ancient Russian story of Vasilisa the Wise tells the adventures of a little girl and her doll as they travel deep into the forest and face wild old Baba Yaga. In the interval there will be a short art activity and afterwards the performers will be available to show their puppets and answer any questions.

Suitable for children aged 6 up. All children must bring an adult with them.

Booking - £7 & £3 | 01865 311100 - oxford.events@barefootbooks.co.uk |

 

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Play of Light is a puppet theatre company offering performances and workshops to a variety of community groups. Making something out of nothing is the main plank of our aesthetic and our ethos. We want to encourage the imagination by using simple means to create theatre - playfully. Simple black and white or coloured shadow cut-outs, appearing behind a stretched white screen, or fluttering dark projections looming on the folds of a parachute. This show means a lot personally since both performers have had recent experiences of close bereavement. They have researched carefully drawing on the expertise of bereavement therapists and others in creating the piece.

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30th Oct | The Story Museum |
Rochester House, 42 Pembroke St, Oxford OX1 1BP |

2.00 Spooky Stories workshop with Dave Shelton (www.daveshelton.com) Learn to spin scary stories with the author of A Boy, A Bear and A Boat and the curiously creepy Thirteen Chairs. Age 9-13.   £6.
6.00 Ghost Stories with Dave Shelton: Thirteen chairs. One empty.Ask Dave about his new thriller, hear some curiously creepy tales. Age 11+.   £5.

Booking - 01865 305305 | www.ticketsoxford.com | Disabled

 

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30th Oct - 8.00pm - 9.30pm | Sonic Midwifery: Concert and talk by MaryLiz Smith |
Warneford Chapel, Warneford Hospital, Oxford OX3 7JX |

Maryliz Smith (www.marylizsmith.com) is an internationally renowned performance artist, composer, and coach. She is a founding member of Callanish Society and ThresholdArts, teams who guide individuals and groups through significant transitions. Through her personal experiences with those facing death, her presentation Sonic midwifery eases us into the challenging transition of death with the language of music and her understanding of psychoacoustic phenomena. Please join us for both the mystery and the revelation of music as a passageway and support for those facing their deaths.

Booking - £10/8 | 01865 305305 www.ticketsoxford.com| Disabled

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Since I was a young child, I have thought about death. It never occurred to me not to speak of it. As I grew older, our culture taught me to fear it, to deny its presence. I questioned these attitudes daily. As an adult, given a handful of pivotal experiences with people who died, these attitudes rose to the surface once more, and I became determined to shift the orientation away from death--one of ignorance--to one of being in relationship with it. What grew out of this powerful urge are two existing organizations I co-founded with colleagues and friends motivated by the same purpose. I would like to introduce you to: www.Callanish.org and www.ThresholdArts.org.
As a professional musician, I have often said that I was born from music. It is my first language. Trained as a concert organist and chamber musician, I have come to appreciate this aesthetic form of communication and means of expression. Without music, the world would be barren. From the jungles of Africa to the cathedrals of Europe, music has carried me to cherish my own living and my own preparation for death. May I never forget its function as a bridge, a connector and powerful catalyst for inviting the unheard to be heard, and returning the heard back to the silence that embraces it all.

As a State Registered Occupational Therapist for 30 years Hazel's focus has remained throughout her career promoting well being and person centred approach in dementia care settings. Hazel brought her father home from the USA to look after him at home. Jim was living with advanced vascular dementia and bowel cancer. His wishes to be cared for by family at the end of his life and to die at home were honoured but the journey was hard at times. This recent experience motivated Hazel to become involved in end of life issues for people living with dementia. Hazel has travelled extensively by invitation within Europe and to Hong Kong and India to teach and lecture about occupation and dementia.
Publications
Perrin, T. and May, H. Anderson, E. (2005) Wellbeing in Dementia: An Occupational Approach for Therapists and Carers. Churchill Livingstone. London. ISBN 9780443103995, May, H. Edwards, P. Brooker, D. (2009) Enriched Care Planning for People with Dementia. Jessica Kinglsey Publishers ISBN 978-1-84310-405-6.

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31st Oct - 10.30am - 12.30pm | Whose Death is it Anyway? | Honouring end of life wishes for people with dementia - Panel discussion |
Friends Meeting House, St Giles OX1 3LW |

The government suggested that by 2014 every person with dementia living in England should agree with the statement: ‘I am confident my end of life wishes will be respected. I can expect a good death.’ If you have dementia, or think that you could have in the future, how confident do you feel that your end of life wishes will be honoured? An expert panel brought together by Hazel May talk about a range of issues and concerns arising from this subject. Dawn Brooker chairs, (www.worcester.ac.uk/discover/professor-dawn-brooker.html), Director of Dementia Studies, Worcester University.Dr. Jennifer Bute, former GP with early onset dementia, John Killick (www.dementiapositive.co.uk) a leading exponent of the use of words and improvisation in dementia care is joined by Nigel George (www.ageingwithoptimism.com) lawyer specialising in end of life dilemmas and Dr Maeve McKeogh.

Booking - £7/5 | 01865 305305 - www.ticketsoxford.com | Disabled
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As a State Registered Occupational Therapist for 30 years, with a masters in philosophy and health care, Hazel's focus has remained throughout her career promoting well being and person centred approach in dementia care settings. Hazel brought her father home from the USA to look after him at home. Jim was living with advanced vascular dementia and bowel cancer. His wishes to be cared for by family at the end of his life and to die at home were honoured but the journey was hard at times. This recent experience motivated Hazel to become involved in end of life issues for people living with dementia. Hazel has travelled extensively by invitation within Europe and to Hong Kong and India to teach and lecture about occupation and dementia.
Publications
Perrin, T. and May, H. Anderson, E. (2005) Wellbeing in Dementia: An Occupational Approach for Therapists and Carers. Churchill Livingstone. London. ISBN 9780443103995, May, H. Edwards, P. Brooker, D. (2009) Enriched Care Planning for People with Dementia. Jessica Kinglsey Publishers ISBN 978-1-84310-405-6.

I used to be an academic GP having previously worked in a rural hospital in Africa. My father had dementia, it took me 5 years to get a diagnosis I was told in 2009 I had Alzheimer’s dementia and was put on medication with great benefit but after not recognising my husband we moved to a place with independent living specialising in Dementia. After my diagnosis I produced leaflets to explain things to people with 3 simple principles I know we can improve things. I have a website continually seeking to provide more help and resources including dvds of my training resources which are used in many care homes. Also an animated cartoon the Dragon Story for young children to explain dementia which is on the national school curriculum of resources.

I have produced resources for ‘Re- mentia’ to delay deterioration of dementia and run groups where I live, using these, with very positive results. As I live among others with dementia I can walk the path with them We need purpose and hope and I believe we can have joy in the present and that far more can be done to enable people to live well with dementia.

This means I spend a lot of time educating the professionals seeking to influence policy inspiring the carers My background as a Doctor helps me in this.

Solicitor and Director of Ageing With Optimism. Nigel is a member of the Society of Trust and Estates Practitioners, a Death Cafe facilitator, a member of the Alzheimer's Society and the National Council of Palliative Care and a Dementia Champion. He provides help and advice on the law, dementia, end of life issues and organising memorial services. Ageing with Optimism aims to help people get the very best out of growing old.

I have been a solicitor for 30 years and have dealt with a lot of elderly clients. A couple of years ago I set up Happy Ending Funerals which aimed to help organise a more positive funeral experience. This was my first major move in to the non-legal side. In 2012 I joined the National Council of Palliative Care and attended their End of Life and dementia conference in London. I was fascinated to discover how doctors are unprepared to talk about death and what close links there were between end of life planning and the legal work I carried out.

I qualified in medicine from University College Dublin in 1985 and have worked as Consultant in Palliative Medicine since 1994. I have worked in a number of hospices in London as well as in Oxfordshire and currently work at Sue Ryder Nettlebed Hospice in South Oxfordshire and also at the Royal Berkshire Hospital in Reading. The Sue Ryder Palliative Care Service covers South Oxfordshire, South Buckinghamshire and West Berkshire with specialist community teams assessing and reviewing patients in their homes seven days a week. We deal with all serious illnesses including neurological disease and dementia and have large multidisciplinary teams at all our sites. There are five Consultants leading the clinical service and offering support 24 hrs a day seven days a week. Our focus in on a holistic approach to patients and their families with good symptom control. I believe passionately in good end of life care for all patients regardless of their diagnosis and wherever they are. I believe that care in a nursing or residential home for patients reaching the end of life or in a hospital or in the patients own home must be as good as care in a hospice. We must improve the standard of care everywhere. We need to improve the recognition of dying in all settings and ensure that everybody has a say in where they want to be and how they want to be cared for. I believe strongly in open clear compassionate communication with patients and their families about what is happening and what is likely to happen in the future.

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31st Oct - 1.00pm - 1.30pm | Circle of Life Game |
Friends Meeting House, St Giles, Oxford, OX1 3LW |

Circle of Life Game A new board game created by Gloucestershire’s End of Life Commissioner Gina King – a fun and informative way to think about end of life. Come and watch it being played and join in if you want to.

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31st Oct - 1.30pm - 3.30pm | Shadow into Light | presentation and workshops |
Friends Meeting House St Giles OX1 3LW|

Shadow into Light was an art/poetry group hosted by Bedminster Family Practice in Bristol designed to support, stimulate, and offer new means of expression to people struggling with bereavement. Dr. Gillian Rice will discuss how bereavement affects the health and wellbeing of individuals and how the project was evaluated. Artist, Eleanor Glover and poet, Claire Williamson, will describe the rationale behind the courses and how they were structured and recruited. Participants will then have a choice between an art or writing workshop where they will experience how this work was facilitated and explore how cognitive processing of felt experience can be transformed by engagement with creative activities. Supported by Oxford Cruse.

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For more information contact eleanor.glover@freeuk.com or cvwilliamson@googlemail.com

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Eleanor Glover is a professional artist/maker with 25 years experience of working with the arts in a community context, in prisons, hospices, psychiatric units, hospitals, surgeries, and for the EOPTA scheme (Empowering Older People through the Arts). She has particular interest in using Book Arts and Shadow Theatre as vehicles for narrative therapy as means to capture fragmented and difficult personal stories. The effort to process premature deaths in her own family from an early age was a spur to her involvement in bereavement work. She has a Higher Diploma in Integrated Arts Psychotherapy (IATE/London Metropolitan University).

Claire Williamson is Programme Leader for Metanoia Institute’s MSc in Creative Writing for Therapeutic Purposes. Claire has written two narrative poetry collections, one following her brother’s suicide (Ride On, 2005) and a fictional account of a missing person (The Soulwater Pool, 2008). Claire is very interested in creative writing and transformation and the concept of ‘writing and becoming’.

Dr Gillian Rice has been a GP with Bedminster Family Practice in Bristol since 1988. She has championed use of the arts in healthcare settings both to improve the built environment and provide arts activities that can improve patients’ wellbeing. Dr Rice has instigated and facilitated numerous arts projects in her practice. Most recently she has worked with Claire Williamson and Eleanor Glover on the Shadow Into Light courses for bereaved people, with particular responsibility for the research side of the project.

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31st Oct | The Story Museum |
Rochester House, 42 Pembroke St, Oxford OX1 1BP |

11.30-13.00 Adam Murphy Masterclass: Join Phoenix comic’s Corpse Talk creator Adam Murphy (www.adammurphy.com) to produce your own ghoulish comic creations, inspired by the characters from our 26 Characters exhibition. Age 8-12. £6.
14.00-15.00 Halloween Corpse Talk: Join Adam Murphy and produce your own undead-infested comic. Age 6-12. £5.

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31st Oct - 8.00pm - Night Visit | Storytelling, Music & Audio Visuals | Sally Pomme Clayton |
Old Fire Station, George Street, OX1 2AQ |

Night Visit merges biography and myth, history and dream, invoking multiple perspectives, triggering memories, summoning ghosts. Sally Pomme Clayton www.sallypommeclayton.com tells stories of her families' experiences with spiritualism, interweaving recordings of her grandfather’s voice with her own voice. She traces the cultural history of spiritualism from the 1850's when science and photography tried to capture the invisible, through to the mass bereavement of two World wars. Sally Pomme contrasts her family’s search for evidence, with the dazzling visions of 18th century mystic, Emmanuel Swedenborg. His daring ideas are conjured in poetic fragments, where he bravely surrenders himself to exploration of the supernatural, travelling through the cosmos, in search of truth. Night Visit has a mesmeric audio world composed in surround sound, and performed live by Panosghikas(http://www.panosghikas.com). Stunning images are created and manipulated live by Fotios Begklis http://marmelada.co.uk/. Sound and speech fracture and fuse, narrative and noise cut-up and coalesce, images suggest fleeting presences and conjure metaphysical spaces.

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Sally Pomme Clayton is a performance storyteller and writer. She founded The Company of Storytellers with Ben Haggarty and Hugh Lupton in 1985. Recent performances have been at: Soho Theatre, Northern Stage, Beyond the Border Storytelling Festival; The National Gallery. During 2012 she wrote and performed 'Prince Zal and the Simorgh' for composer David Bruce and The London Philharmonic Orchestra. During 2010 she wrote six stories for The British Museum's A History of the World in 100 Objects. She writes for children, her latest book is 'Greek Myths - stories of sun, stone and sea'. (Frances Lincoln 2012).

http://sallypommeclayton.com/blog

Panos Ghikas is a composer, performer, and producer. He creates diverse music with avant-pop band The Chap; explores new approaches to composition and improvisation through his label Migrant Records, and his unique collaboration with singer Jennifer Walshe; composes commissioned work for contemporary classical ensembles such as Ensemble Exposé (The Film Sextet for instruments, audio and video playback) and visual artists such as Laure Prouvost (It, heat, hit a quadraphonic surround-sound composition for video installation at Tate Britain). Panos Ghikas is lecturer in Music at Canterbury Christ Church University.

www.thechap.org

Fotios Begklis is a digital film-maker and multimedia developer who works with artists creating interactive multimedia. He is a Learning Technologist at Imperial College University exploring innovative uses of technology. He was assistant director to Greek film director Pantelis Voulgaris. Head of digital media at Eterra Music Productions, Athens. He works with artists developing interactive multimedia, and has created: video projections for Krotala at The Queen Elizabeth Hall; a website for composer Helen Chadwick; films for Migrant Sound , The Crick Crack Club, and The London Gypsy Orchestra.

http://digital-ethnography.co.uk/?p=206

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Nov 1st 10.00am - 4.00pm | The Garden Room | Friends Meeting House, St . Giles OX1 3LW |

The Garden Room will be open for people to sit and relax between events, chat to others, browse information and have a hot drink. See below for entry about Soup, Bread and Cheese lunch.

Free - Small charge for drinks | Disabled
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1st Nov - 10.00am - 11.30am | Funeral Poverty - How Much should your funeral cost? | Panel |
Friends Meeting House, St . Giles OX1 3LW |

Funeral poverty is on the rise. How can we inform ourselves better, plan more effectively and combat the pressure to spend more than we need to? Our panel of experts will help us look afresh at the current cost of dying.

Jeremy Field (www.fieldfuneraldirectors.co.uk), Rosie Inman Cook from the Natural Death Centre www.naturaldeath.org.uk, Heather Kennedy from Quaker Social Action, www.quakersocialaction.com/downtoearth, Revd Philip Sutton from the Chaplaincy & Bereavement Service, John Radcliffe Hospital, Alison Dewar, Wiltshire citizens advice and Jenny Buffery, Chair.

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I manage the Natural Death Centre Charity. We have run an impartial helpline for the last 23 years, enabling the public to make informed choices on all death, dying and funeral related topics. We help folk find good funeral directors, celebrants, and burial sites. We advise families who want to do their own thing without undertakers and those who may want to care for their dead at home or bury them on private land. You name it, we know the answer and if we don’t we know who does. We produce the Natural Death Handbook, now in its 5th edition. It is THE death and dying bible, stuffed with info you will not hear elsewhere. We also publish a free e-zine called ‘more to death’. This comes out twice a year and is packed with extraordinary and amazing secrets, first hand experiences and thoughts from various writers in the field.

I also manage the Association of Natural Burial Grounds an organisation that the charity started back in the 1990’s. We promote best practice in this area, scrutinise sites and encourage them to follow our code of conduct.

Back in 2000 I started what became the award winning and busiest natural burial site in the country. This was my introduction to the charity and the wider issues surrounding death and dying. What brought me to become a cemetery manager was the dissatisfaction I felt after my first cremation experience and also my wonderful Dad who wanted to be buried in his garden.

Head of chaplaincy and bereavement services for the University of Oxford NHS Trust comprising the John Radcliffe, Churchill, Horton hospitals and the Nuffield Orthopaedic Centre. He has 20 years experience of providing trauma counselling following tragic and unexpected death, especially with child and road deaths. The OUH bereavement service provides practical support following deaths of hospital patients and specialist trauma counselling and resource in the immediate aftermath of tragic or sudden death. The rapid response to sudden death service operates 24 hours a day and is based at the JR and with close working links with the police, Coroner and Social Services.

I have been interested in poverty and social justice issues all my working life and have worked as a support worker with vulnerable adults, as a community development worker in East London and a Media Officer for a race equality charity. In 2012 I set up Digs, the campaign and support group for private renters in Hackney. We use community organising techniques to teach people about their housing rights and build their collective power to campaign for decent, secure affordable housing. My job as Funeral Poverty Officer at Quaker Social Action was my first introduction to ‘end of life’ issues and it’s been a very steep learning curve. Like most other people, I’d never heard of funeral poverty before I stumbled across this job and I find it shocking and absolutely fascinating. I’m determined to do everything I can to push the agenda forward on funeral poverty.

Jeremy Field is the Chief Operating Officer of C.P.J. Field & Co. one of the South East of England’s leading family funeral directing companies. Jeremy joined the Company in 2005 as the Company’s Business Development Manager and was invited to join the Board of the Company in 2008 where he assumed the role of Managing Director. In March 2013 Jeremy took on the role of Chief Operating Officer. Jeremy is past President of the London Association of Funeral Directors, a regular at Sussex County Association of Funeral Directors and a current member of the NAFD’s Environment Advisory Group. He holds an honours degree in Business Administration was awarded a Diploma in Public Relations in 2006 and achieved the NAFD’s Diploma in Funeral Directing in 2008. Since joining the National Executive in May 2010 Jeremy has taken responsibility for the legislation portfolio advising and representing the membership on matters legal.

With funeral costs rising well above inflation, Wiltshire Citizens Advice has championed action on funeral poverty on behalf of the many clients they – and other CAB Bureaux - see who struggle to pay for the funerals of loved ones, leading to increased levels of debt. Taking this on as a CAB Social Policy Volunteer, Alison’s research into funeral poverty identified a 4-point code for organisations everywhere to sign up to and help tackle funeral poverty:

1. Raising awareness of the risks of unexpected and excessive debt. Many organisations could provide guidance before those at risk make financial choices that could lead to money struggles.
2. Clear and reasonable costs. Funeral Directors providing Plain English, simple funerals and an end to the overwhelming complexity of the ‘add-ons’ that make it hard to understand the true extent of funeral costs.
3. Direct Action on funeral poverty, from local debt support organisations and those with access to charitable funding and fundraising ability.
4. Public and voluntary groups committing to working together for efficiency. Instead of letting ‘hidden’ organisational costs grow while managing delays and debts, coordination and early intervention could help reduce benefit-related costs and individual funeral debts.

Jenny has served on the Funerals & Memorials group of Friends Meeting House, St Giles for 10 years. She is also a volunteer at Abingdon Citizens Advice.

Miscellaneous event1st Nov - 11.45am - 1.15pm | Say their Name | Film and Q & A by Jane Harris & Jimmy Edmonds |
Friends Meeting House, St. Giles OX1 3LW |

Jane and Jimmy's son Josh died in a road accident in Vietnam. He was 22. Jane is a therapist. Jimmy is a documentary film and TV editor. As they found out how they wanted to create his funeral and mourn him they have made a series of award winning films.  We will be watching “Say their Name” a promotional film commissioned by the charity Compassionate Friends (www.tcf.org.uk) “which is we believe the only video available in this country made by and for bereaved parents, and which addresses head-on the social exclusion many of us feel”...Challenging many of our current notions of how to grieve they encourage us to remember our dead and integrate their loss into our lives. Their inspiring website www.beyondgoodbye.co.uk is a core part of this processs.                                     

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We were able to use our professional skills to deal with a big personal issue. To see the film now giving comfort to others is hugely gratifying and has encouraged us to continue working in this field. Our film Beyond Goodbye is hosted on a dedicated website of the same name and is the centre piece of a collection of on line ideas we have put together to help friends and family to remember Josh. Along with the blog which is often about opening up our thoughts and feelings on what it means to grieve in a death adverse culture, we have a number of other films, lots of photo galleries, Music for Josh and Postcards to Josh the latter being probably the best way his friends have of staying touch with the spirit that was/is Josh. In a sense Josh still has an on-line presence which is very important to us. Our section ‘Continuing Bonds’ hopes to explore the many different ways people (especially parents) have found not of ‘cutting off’ but of maintaining an on going relationship with their child and this really is the fundamental philosophy underlining all the work we do with BEYOND GOODBYE.

We were able to use our professional skills to deal with a big personal issue. To see the film now giving comfort to others is hugely gratifying and has encouraged us to continue working in this field. Our film Beyond Goodbye is hosted on a dedicated website of the same name and is the centre piece of a collection of on line ideas we have put together to help friends and family to remember Josh. Along with the blog which is often about opening up our thoughts and feelings on what it means to grieve in a death adverse culture, we have a number of other films, lots of photo galleries, Music for Josh and Postcards to Josh the latter being probably the best way his friends have of staying touch with the spirit that was/is Josh. In a sense Josh still has an on-line presence which is very important to us. Our section ‘Continuing Bonds’ hopes to explore the many different ways people (especially parents) have found not of ‘cutting off’ but of maintaining an on going relationship with their child and this really is the fundamental philosophy underlining all the work we do with BEYOND GOODBYE.

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1st Nov - 1.00pm - 2.00pm | Soup, Bread and Cheese lunch |
Friends Meeting House, St Giles OX1 3LW |

A chance to relax, gather more information, chat to others attending the festival or simply absorb what you have heard over a simple wholesome lunch. Feed the body as well as the mind and heart!

Booking advisable. Places limited - £6 | 01367 240508 | Disabled
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1st Nov - 2.00pm - 4.00pm | I can't die yet, I'm not Ready | Workshop |
Friends Meeting House, St Giles OX1 3LW |

Solicitor Nigel George, (http://ageingwithoptimism.com/) Celebrant and burial ground manager Liz Rothschild (www.woodlandburialwestmill.co.uk) and personal PA, Lin Worthy (www.worthyconclusions.co.uk) talk about the legal, organisational and personal choices you may want to consider before a death occurs. Preparing in this way not only eases the burden of those tasks for the people left behind but can bring you an enormous sense of relief and reduce anxiety. We will hear short presentations and then work in smaller groups offering ideas and information before sharing discoveries with everyone at the end. A little forward planning can go a long way. Information sheets provided.

Booking - £25/20 | 01367 240508 - info@woodlandburialwestmill.co.uk | Disabled
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Liz Rothschild has been a celebrant for over twenty-five years working with people to develop the ceremony they want for funerals, weddings, naming and significant stages of life such as the end of a relationship, retiring, menopause and menarche. She set up and manages Westmill Woodland Burial ground with her partner Adam Twine. Our emphasis is on working with families to find the right funeral for them and there are regular events for families to take part in should they wish to including a memorial gathering and work days planting trees etc at the site. People invest in the future as well as the past when they come to us. Work in this way has led me to become passionate about death education seeing the benefits of people having prepared for their deaths and the deaths of others so that they feel less shocked and helpless when an actual death occurs. Hence the Festival.

Lin knows first-hand how it feels to lose someone you love. She has lost both her parents and has been widowed; on each occasion, she looked after the numerous, diverse and emotional range of tasks that arose.

Lin was inspired to set up Worthy Conclusions following the death of a friend’s wife. The widowed husband had no close family to help sort the practical things that needed to be done following the funeral. Lin realised that not everyone has the luxury of someone to support and help them at this time and Worthy Conclusions was born.

Solicitor and Director of Ageing With Optimism. Nigel is a member of the Society of Trust and Estates Practitioners, a Death Cafe facilitator, a member of the Alzheimer's Society and the National Council of Palliative Care and a Dementia Champion. He provides help and advice on the law, dementia, end of life issues and organising memorial services. Ageing with Optimism aims to help people get the very best out of growing old.

I have been a solicitor for 30 years and have dealt with a lot of elderly clients. A couple of years ago I set up Happy Ending Funerals which aimed to help organise a more positive funeral experience. This was my first major move in to the non-legal side. In 2012 I joined the National Council of Palliative Care and attended their End of Life and dementia conference in London. I was fascinated to discover how doctors are unprepared to talk about death and what close links there were between end of life planning and the legal work I carried out.

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1st Nov - 4.30pm - 6.30pm | At the Bedside | Panel Discussion |
Friends Meeting House, St Giles, OX1 3LW

Most of us feel fearful of being at the bedside of someone who is dying. We don’t feel we know what to do...We feel we should know but we don’t and we don’t know who to ask. We have very little or no previous experience to help us. Everyone on this panel has a deep understanding of this situation and can offer practical, emotional and spiritual advice. Chair – Sue Brayne (author of The D Word - www.Suebrayne.co.uk), Lizzie Cambray, founder of the Geoffrey Clark Palliative Care Trust (www.gcpct.org.uk), Duncan Forbes, www.oxbel.org.uk, Dr. Jo Withers co-founder of Finity (www.finity.org.uk), Jade Buck, Soul Midwife (www.jadebuckstoryteller.com).

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Author of The D-Word: Talking about Dying (Continuum Books, 2011) Author of the booklet, Nearing the End of Life: a guide for Relatives, Friends and Carers.

Lizzie Cambray is a founder of the Geoffrey Clark Palliative Care Trust, whose aim is to support those needing end of life care in the Cirencester area, and their carers and professionals. Lizzie and her family cared for her brother, Geoff, in the last few months of his life until he died at her home in May 2010. She runs Mindfulness courses as Director of Ridgeway Mindful Psychology (rmp-swindon.org) in and around Swindon and Cirencester and is a member of the Friends and Family group of Westmill Woodland Burial ground.

I retired in 2009 having spent the last seven years of my working life as Chief Executive of The Shakespeare Hospice in Stratford upon Avon. At the Hospice I became especially interested in the “non-medical” aspects of care for people at the end of life – particularly in the need for personal affirmation and the importance of relationships for that. In retirement I have been volunteering for OxBEL- Oxfordshire Befriending for Life- as a “befriender”. I have a deep desire to see dying and death “reintegrated” into our normal life, rather than sequestered in institutions and regarded as the province of specialists.

GP in Wendover, Bucks, with a special interest in end of life care. Co-founder of Finity, a voluntary Buckinghamshire community group which encourages people to plan for the end of life and to talk about it. She also trains fellow medical practitioners in issues arising around end of life and began following this line of work after her own experience of caring for her mother-in-law in her family home until she died.

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In my capacity as a Soul Midwife I've brought companionship and non-medical holistic care to people at the end of their lives. Uniquely I use stories and songs as my main aids in doing this. As hearing is usually the last sense to go, I've found my techniques work well. Working with the dying, their community, friends and family I try and ease them through the process of dying and death. I believe our society has become unfamiliar with this process and would like to change this.

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Nov 1st - 8.00pm - 11.30pm | Day of the Dead Ceilidh with Kismet |
Wolvercote Village Hall, OX2 8AB

Celebrate the Day of the Dead and the Kicking the Bucket festival by dancing together. Dance with the living. Dance for the dead. Kismet www.kismet-music.co.uk play a mix of traditional Scottish and Irish tunes, Eastern European numbers and their own compositions, all with energy and passion. They bring something special for the Day of the Dead theme. All the dances are called and everyone’s welcome including children. “Hard times require furious dancing” says writer, Alice Walker. Soft drinks available. Bring a bottle.

Dressing up welcomed and may even be rewarded.  See you there.

Booking - £12/10 Under 18s £5 | 01865 305305 - www.ticketsoxford.com | Disabled
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2nd Nov 11.00am - 12.30pm | Breathworks Mindfulness for Health | Introduction |
Peace House, 19 Paradise Street, Oxford, OX1 1LD

Led by Marguerite Wallis www.Depthphysiotherapy-oxford.co.uk. The morning includes led meditations, a short talk and a chance to ask questions. Mindfulness has developed as a secular practice which is suitable for anyone of any faith or none. It has been particularly adopted by health professionals with an impressive evidence base for helping with many health problems. Who are we? Who dies? Who is breathing? Am I my mind, my body or my feelings and if not what am I? This morning will allow a space in the business of life to sink into the mystery of these questions.

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Marguerite is a physiotherapist, craniosacral therapist, meditation practitioner and musician. Developing an awareness that is compassionate and accepting of all our experience especially when we are hurting or ill can bring us peace, equanimity and freedom. I have practiced meditation for 35 years and now teach the Breathworks Mindfulness 8 week course. Having been brought up as a Quaker a love of silence and stillness was instilled in me. Living in Africa also helped lay the foundations for a curiosity about suffering, life, death, healing and who or what we are. Regular groups – 16th October 10.30-12 Breathworks Drop In group, 9th October – 6.30-8.30 pm Sufi drop in group – 68 Lytton Road, OX4 3NZ.

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Living in Africa also helped lay the foundations for a curiosity about suffering, death, life, healing and who or what we are. Other groups which I lead that may be of interest are: 16th Oct 10.30 - 12 Breathworks Drop In group at 68 Lytton Road, OX4 3NZ, 9th Oct - 6.30 - 8pm Sufi Drop In Group at the same venue

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2nd Nov - 2.00pm - 3.00pm | When a Pet Dies | Animal bereavement |
Friends Meeting House, St.Giles, OX1 3LW |

The Blue Cross now run a bereavement service because they have become aware of the impact on many people of the death of their pets. Tracy McGrory from the Blue Cross www.bluecross.org.uk talks about the unique issues arising when a pet dies, discusses, amongst other things, the particular bond between humans and animals, the response to having to decide to end an animal’s life, the bond with a guide dog and answers your questions.

Booking - £5/£3 | 01865 305305 - www.ticketsoxford.com | Disabled

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2nd Nov - 2.00pm - 5.00pm | Writing Death with Jo Bousfield & Marcus Moore |
Friends Meeting House, St Giles, OX1 3LW

How can we express in words our feelings about that which 'closes all' ? Can writing about death be cathartic, empowering, or even funny? What does death mean to the living? This is a writing workshop for anyone wishing to explore their feelings and responses to mortality. Hands on, accessible, friendly, appropriate and bold. Both Jo (www.jobousfield.co.uk) and Marcus (www.marcusmoore.wordpress.com/about/) have a close relationship with bereavement and welcome the opportunity to keep alive the exploration of mortality, loss, and death. Marcus is a familiar face in Oxford, having worked on numerous creative projects with the Playhouse and OUP.

Booking - £12/10 | 01865 305305 www.ticketsoxford.com | Disabled
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Writers Jo Bousfield and Marcus Moore have collaborated on many creative projects from shows in sheds to poetry collections. Their latest lively undertaking is ‘Here Today’ a monthly cafe gig full of wit and wisdom. Jo Bousfield trained in theatre at Dartington College of Arts and has worked in Gloucestershire for over thirty years as a writer, director, workshop leader and performer.

Writers Jo Bousfield and Marcus Moore have collaborated on many creative projects from shows in sheds to poetry collections. Their latest lively undertaking is ‘Here Today’ a monthly cafe gig full of wit and wisdom.

Marcus Moore https://www.facebook.com/marcus.moore.75033 has never been short of a word or two. A former teacher, he has since written scripts for BBC TV and run countless writing workshops in schools, prisons, and libraries.

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2nd Nov - 5.00pm - 6.00pm | Organ and Body Donation | Talk |
Friends Meeting House, St.Giles, OX1 3LW

Have you ever wondered about donating your body or organs? Perhaps you always meant to get around to it but had a few niggling concerns. This is your chance to find out all about the process from Revd Philip Sutton who heads up the Chaplaincy & Bereavement Service at the John Radcliffe Hospital.

FREE – Please ring 01367 240508 so we know numbers expected | Disabled
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Head of chaplaincy and bereavement services for the University of Oxford NHS Trust comprising the John Radcliffe, Churchill, Horton hospitals and the Nuffield Orthopaedic Centre. He has 20 years experience of providing trauma counselling following tragic and unexpected death, especially with child and road deaths. The OUH bereavement service provides practical support following deaths of hospital patients and specialist trauma counselling and resource in the immediate aftermath of tragic or sudden death. The rapid response to sudden death service operates 24 hours a day and is based at the JR and with close working links with the police, Coroner and Social Services.

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2nd Nov – 8.00pm - 9.30pm| Dead Good Songs | Celebratory Concert |
Friends Meeting House, St Giles, OX1 3LW |

Vibrant community choir, Voices Unlimited www.voicesunlimited.co.uk led by Kath Lucas joins forces with singers from Frabjous Day to bring you an evening of poignancy and joy – exploring songs chosen by the performers that they would like sung at their funerals. Songs to celebrate life, songs to comfort loved ones and songs to make you smile….And there’s a chance for you to join in too. What song would you like sung at your funeral?

Whether you intend to join us or not why not email us on info@woodlandburialwestmill.co.uk and we will be noting your favourite songs and displaying them during the festival.

Booking - - £12/10 | 01865 305305 or www.ticketsoxford.com | includes a glass of wine or non-alchoholic drink |
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6th Nov - 6.00pm - 7.30pm | How to help children when someone important dies or is dying |
a talk for adults 18+ | Barefoot Books - 294 Banbury Road Summertown, Oxford OX2 7ED |

Helen Mackinnon, Director of SeeSaw (www.seesaw.org.uk) introduced by Tessa Strickland, Co-founder and editor Barefoot Books (www.barefootbooks.com) will offer useful, practical insights and guidance about how to talk to children about death and dying drawing on her years of experience working in the field both with families and professionals. SeeSaw has offered support to 80% of Oxfordshire’s schools. Bereavement often brings with it an additional sense of isolation and anxiety. If we can feel less uncomfortable about approaching the subject with young people we can help ourselves and them enormously. Useful resources available from Barefoot Books and elsewhere on display and for sale.

Fundraiser - 20% of all book and cafe sales on the night go to SeeSaw - £5/£4 | Phone: 01865 311100 - oxford.events@barefootbooks.co.uk |

 

See Saw Barefoot books

Organ Donor
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8th Nov 10.30am - 4.30pm | Change, Loss & Death | Art Workshop |
Ilfley Village Hall, Church Way, Iffley, Oxford, OX4 4EJ |

Karin Jarman has worked for many years as an art therapist. This workshop is open to anyone whether they have experience with visual art or not. Karin says "The phenomenon of death confronts us with the outer appearance of Going out of Being, bringing a sense of loss and grieving for what has been and can never be again. Is there a pathway for our modern understanding to address this different manifestation of Being? Can we call forth a different way of perception, just as "real" as what the outer senses tell us, but not dependant on our physical make up? This is an intensive workshop of art making and ritual, open to anyone who is approaching the biggest mystery of our lives with absolute honesty and questing."

Booking - £45/30 | 01453 757463 - indigo@phonecoop.coop | Disabled
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13th Nov 6.30pm - 8.30pm (doors open 6.00pm) | Griefwalker | Film & Talk |
The New Road Baptist Church, Bonn Square OX1 1LQ | (opportunity for those who wish to stay and talk with Stephen until 9.30pm in a more intimate group)

Griefwalker is a National Film Board of Canada (NFB) feature documentary film. It is a lyrical, poetic portrait of Stephen Jenkinson’s work with dying people. Griefwalker shows Stephen in teaching sessions with doctors and nurses, in counselling sessions with families, and in meditative and often frank exchanges with the film’s director while paddling a canoe. Is there such a thing as good dying? How is it that grief could be a skill instead of an affliction? Who are the dead to us? How can seeing your life’s end be the beginning of your deep love of being alive? His presentations detonate a strong desire in people to talk about their experiences of dying in our culture. For more information on Stephen’s work and his UK tour please visit www.orphanwisdom.com/events/upcoming/

Booking - £12/10 | 01865 305305 - www.ticketsoxford.com |
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